Real Talk: The Yuletide Blues

“I’m usually really into the holiday season. My family is multi-faith, so we have many traditions from many cultures. That said, they’re not all comfortable incorporating my religious practices into our home. I suggested we burn a Yule log this year and my mom flat said no. I ended up just lighting a candle in my room. How can I talk to her about this? My parents know I’m Wiccan and they’ve never given me a hard time about it, until now. I feel like I have to talk to them about it, but I’m not sure how to start that conversation or what I should say.”

Uhg. The holidays can really suck. I’m sorry friend. It’s no wonder so many people are depressed this time of year, honestly.

When I consulted the cards for you, I drew the King of Swords. The King is a level-headed, perhaps even dispassionate man. He is even-keeled in times of stress, able to examine a situation from many perspectives. By doing this, he gains insight into the problem which helps him solve it fairly, justly. He is close to his family and loyal to his friends. He is seen by others to be responsible and fair.

As it pertains to your situation, I think the King of Swords is counseling you to approach this situation calmly, with finesse. To be as fair and measured as the King of Swords is to put aside your feelings and look at the situation as objectively as possible. However, when I say “put your feelings aside”, I don’t mean that you shouldn’t feel them. Rather, I think you would do best to sit with them a while, do whatever you need to do to heal a little bit. Your feelings are hurt (rightly, in my humble opinion) and trying to talk to your parents about matters now might become more adversarial than productive. Right now with the Moon in Cancer, everyone’s emotions are running a little ragged (plus it’s the holidays — the traffic alone makes me practically homicidal) but after December 24th the Moon will be in Leo and those mood swings will ease. If you want to leverage Moon energy, the best time to sit down and talk things out with your folks will be between December 26 through the 30th when the Moon is in Virgo (a time to suss out and solve problems) and then Libra (a time for balance and cooperation). Of course, you could also wait a few weeks — whenever you’re ready! That’s the important thing.

As for what to say, I’m sure you can come up with plenty in the next week or so. My suggestion, though, is to ask your parents to sit down and talk with you during a quiet time in your home, maybe after dinner or early on a weekend day. Tell them it’s about something important to you. Be honest with them, let them know how it felt to be unable to express yourself as part of the family’s growing traditions. Tell them what you’d like to change before next year, and be ready to tell them about the traditions that you want to bring into the home, like the Yule log. If they don’t come over to your side immediately, don’t give up hope just yet. This might be a conversation you have to revisit a few times before everyone is on the same page.

I wish you a restful and restorative holiday. I hope your New Year blesses you with inspiration and growth.


Sarah C


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Real Talk: Living is hard work.

“Hey Sarah C,
I’ve really been struggling lately, emotionally. It seems like everything is bad — it’s in the news, all over, in our faces all the time. Things haven’t been going great for me personally, either. I’m stuck in a job I hate, living in a place I don’t like, and it feels like I’m not going anywhere. I don’t know what to do anymore.”

Hi sweetie,

First, I’m sorry that you’re feeling stuck. Being deprived of opportunities to seek fulfillment is a major blow to one’s wellbeing. That coupled with complete existential dread over the fate of the world, and yeah, no wonder you feel like shit.

When I drew a card for you, I got the Wheel of Fortune. Years ago, I would get this card in readings often. I was in my mid-twenties and stunted. No matter how diligently, how patiently I worked toward my goals, I could never break through. I’d tried everything I could think of to work around each roadblock, but I still found my path occluded. I wasn’t just discouraged, I was despondent.

I saw the Wheel in my readings and I interpreted it to mean that destiny will out; eventually, the right moment would come along and everything would fall into place. But there’s another interpretation of this card that made much more sense. I couldn’t see it at the time, but this is what I want to share with you.

There are moments that will come to pass with or without our touch, that are outside of our control, but your fate, your life, is all up to you.

I know. What a useless cliché. But hear me out:

When you’re frustrated and feeling low, you develop mental blindspots. It looks like you’re stuck, like you can’t go anywhere or do anything differently — and in terms of your environment, that might be absolutely true. The thing that you can change, though, is your approach.

Maybe you’re not stuck. Maybe you’re just biding your time.

You have the power of choice, and right now the Wheel is asking you which you will choose: will you continue to beat your head against the wall, or will you choose a different course? You don’t have to stick around to chip away at those obstacles to your success. It’s not time to tackle those problems yet. They aren’t going anywhere — leave them alone, go do something different. Have some faith — faith in fate, if you want, but most importantly, faith in yourself — that you’ll break out eventually. You bide your time and you do the work. Work on yourself; build the tools and gain the skills you will need to dismantle those obstacles to your HEA (Happily Ever After). The state of the world is out of your hands, but you’re a resourceful person — do what you can with what you have and trust that it is bringing you closer to your moment. It’s on it’s way, I assure you.

Love and light, friend,

Sarah C


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